Self-Care Date Ideas
No man, no problem! You don’t need a significant other to have a fun night on the town, or a bunch of friends to share a night in. These self-date ideas are great ways to discover more about yourself. Plus, it’s an excellent form of self-care!
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What is a Solo Date?
It’s exactly what it sounds like. And yes, dating yourself is a thing! It’s something I think young people should do especially more of than going on a regular date. If you want to be confident in a happy, healthy relationship, you need to be happy with yourself first.
But I’m not here to give you relationship advice. Going on a date by yourself can be very therapeutic because it teaches you to be happy doing things on your own. You’re not putting your self-worth into someone else’s hands. And you have complete control over the night’s activities!
The key to having a good solo date for self-care is that the activity has to be appealing and fun to you. And if it improves your mental health and makes you feel rejuvenated afterwards, you’ve hit the sweet spot!
What Do You Do on a Self-Date?
If you can’t think of things to do when you are dating yourself, I’ve got you! These self-date ideas are separated into two categories: Staying in and going out. Depending on what you’re feeling, you can go either way.
If you’re new to the whole idea of dating yourself, I recommend that you try some of the self-date night in ideas so you can ease yourself into it. There will be no therapeutic benefits to dating yourself if you feel self-conscious the whole time you’re out!
And I totally get it if it does feel weird. There are some self-dates that don’t make me feel good at all. Like eating by myself at a sit-down restaurant. And that’s okay! One of the best self-care tips I can give you is that you have to like the activity (source).
If it just doesn’t jive with you, don’t do it. Simple as that. Look for things to do by yourself that you truly enjoy. So with that said, let’s dive into some fun solo date night ideas! Let’s get started with a good date night in.
Self-Date Ideas for Staying In
There are endless things you can do by yourself at home! Whenever I have a date by myself, I always want it to be relaxing and slow. But you can do it however you want. I have ideas below for every kind of person.
I’m currently writing this post while stuck at home during the Coronavirus pandemic, so these self-care ideas couldn’t come soon enough. I’ve already done about five of these! Just sit back, relax, and give some of your favorites a try.
Draw a Luxurious Bubble Bath
During the wintertime, I’ll usually have a bath every single day! It’s my Zen time while I defrost and unwind. But you don’t need to restrict a luxurious bath to the winter. If you’re feeling yucky or lethargic, I highly recommend you draw a detox bath and read a good book.
Just add a cup or so of Epsom salts, some Bentonite clay, a splash of apple cider vinegar, and you’re good to go! Yes, the water will look murky, but that’s okay. Make sure you soak for at least 30 minutes or longer.
Give Yourself a Spa Day
You don’t have to stop at the bath! Make a whole day out of it if you can. I could write a whole post on this topic alone, but some spa day ideas could include:
- Give yourself a manicure
- Try some easy DIY facials
- Give your hair a nourishing oil treatment
- Make and try your own luxurious lotion
- Diffuse some uplifting essential oils
- Exfoliate your body with a sugar scrub treatment
The list could go on, but I’ll leave you with that to start. Don’t forget the healthy (or not so healthy) snacks! Set aside all or part of a day to give yourself some spa treatments and break it up with some of the other suggestions on this list. You’ll end the day feeling refreshed for sure!
Set Aside Time for a Drink and a Good Book
This is a self-care ritual that I do almost daily. I always have a list of personal development or guilty pleasure books that I need to work through. So I made a habit out of my long list of books and read for a little bit each morning while I sip my favorite tea.
I don’t drink coffee, but I love some roasted dandelion root tea with Stevia and half n half! Dandelion root has so many benefits! I love to drink it while I escape from the world for a bit and read a good book. I just finished the fourth Outlander book and loved it!
Have a “Cheat Meal”
Or a cheat day, for that matter. It’s all up to you. If you’ve been good with your eating, or find yourself missing a certain kind of food, don’t be afraid to let yourself live a little! Just make sure you drink plenty of water to minimize your body’s reaction to it.
I’m mentioning this self-care idea with an err of caution, because I don’t recommend the dieting lifestyle. Instead, I eat as much whole, nourishing foods as I can and allow myself to eat a “cheat meal” if it comes my way. But if you’re struggling to switch to this mindset, it could lead to a cheat week, and we don’t want that. Just know your limits and don’t let yourself binge too much!
Alternatively, Cook a Nourishing Meal
During this pandemic, we need to be eating as much nourishing food as possible to combat all this stress. I am notorious for stress-eating, so I’m keeping as much junk food out of the house as possible. Give your body a chance to refuel and make it something delicious!
It doesn’t have to be terribly elaborate, either! My healthy fish tacos can be made in less than half an hour. Or you can save some dishes with my one-pot turkey green chili. Feel free to browse the rest of my healthy food section for ideas!
Try Mindfulness Meditation
This is yet another self-care activity that I practice daily. I do it first thing in the morning to get me started on the right foot with a clear head. If you don’t have time to dedicate a whole day of self-dating, just take five minutes for a quick meditation!
I’ve got a guide on mindfulness meditation for beginners to get you started. It’s full of great resources and guided meditation to try out on a few different apps. YouTube is a great resource for relaxing music and guided meditations as well!
Unplug from Social Media
For me, a good date night by myself is distancing myself from technology. While I know that this sounds anxiety-inducing, backing away from social media (and electronics in general) during uncertain times can be a lifesaver for your poor nerves. I’ve certainly had days where I simply shut everything off and stared out the window.
But don’t let yourself be bored if you feel yourself going crazy! You can read a book, do a workout, go on a quick walk, anything at all. Some of these self-date ideas already involve unplugging from social media, so it’s a good starting point.
Purge Your Closet
A good closet cleanout can be so therapeutic for out with the old and in with the new! I highly recommend this self-date idea if you feel overwhelmed with everything in your house and you want to feel a bit lighter and less overwhelmed.
Go through and sort out your closet Mare Kondo style, also known as the konmari method. Get everything off of the shelves and onto your bed or the floor. Hold each item up individually, and if it doesn’t bring you joy, give it away. You can read more about how to organize everything when you’re done in Marie Kondo’s book above.
Learn a New Hobby Online
The internet is full of knowledge, you can teach yourself just about anything! I literally spent an hour one afternoon during quarantine learning how to fight like a Jedi from Star Wars with a dowel rod. It wasn’t the best self-date idea because it scared my cats, but it was fun nonetheless.
Think about a hobby you’ve always wanted to try and look up tutorials online! I recently posted on my Instagram page about how I took up ballet at home using prerecorded YouTube classes, and it inspired so many people! It can also be a great excuse to get back to a hobby you miss, if only for a little bit.
Do a Home Workout
I know so many people that make their daily workout their “me time” and it always does them a world of good! And you might not think that a home workout is as effective as the gym, but it’s just as good, if not better!
You can try something new without worrying about being judged by the surrounding people you would encounter at the gym, and you can wear whatever you want! On some mornings if I didn’t sleep well the night before, I love to do a good yoga session in my pajamas.
Binge-Watch Your Favorite Show
If you need a good chance to escape instead of engaging your brain too much, give yourself permission to sit in front of the T.V. for a few hours. This is not to be confused with watching T.V. after a long day and you want to numb yourself. Try to avoid this if you can!
But if you’ve been busy and still haven’t got around to the latest episode of your favorite show, make time for it! There’s nothing better than rewarding yourself with something you’ve been dying to get to.
Make a Self-Care Kit
For bad days with little time to care for yourself or go on a solo date, make little emergency kit to enjoy the time you do have. A self-care kit can be a little box of things that make you happy no matter what you’re feeling.
I have a post on the best self-care kit ideas to help you make your own box. I have one and look forward to using it whenever I’m having a bad day. It’s honestly been a lifesaver! Sometimes a self-care solo date can just be five minutes of sorting through your favorite things that make you happy.
Self-Date Ideas for Going Out
Now that we’ve have a solo date night in, let’s take things to the streets! Whether you’re a self-care veteran or simply want an excuse to get out of the house, I’ve got a few ideas to get you out of your comfort zone.
Go to Lunch and a Museum
Have a nice afternoon out all your lonesome! Start out with a nice little café lunch or get takeout somewhere and eat it at the local park. Try to stay off your phone! You (hopefully) wouldn’t do that a potential date, so give yourself the same treatment.
The go to that museum exhibit you’ve been dying to see. I have a huge soft spot for museums, so this is one of my favorite self-dates out. You can go to the art museum, or any kind of history museum. It all depends on you and what you like!
Take a Vacation
If you’re able to get the time off, why not? I highly recommend this if you’re going through a transformative time and need to get away for a bit. Even if it’s just for a day and a night. Get a cabin in the woods or stay in a cute apartment in your dream city!
Don’t forget to make a killer itinerary! Or plan to do nothing but bask in the sun on the beach. That’s what I love to do whenever I’m near a beach because the waves always sound so calming.
Or a Mini Staycation!
Be a tourist in your own town for a weekend and see what you discover. I’m lucky to live in a pretty high-profile town (Denver) without being too crazy, and I love marveling at what my city has to offer! There are so many different self-date ideas to choose from.
Take some tours, go to a new landmark, or make a reservation at that super popular restaurant you’ve never bothered to try. Or heck, book a night at that luxurious hotel you’ve been eyeing forever. You might understand why tourists love your city so much!
Spend a Day at the Bookstore
Whenever I’m feeling extra introverted but still feel like I should go out, an afternoon at the bookstore is the perfect fix. You’ll be around people in an environment where it’s okay to simply hang out on your own and read a good book.
If you’re feeling apprehensive about spending time alone in public, this is a great starting point. You’ll find that there are plenty of other people like you who are happy to be alone without being lonely.
Attend a Stage Performance
This is one of my favorite self-care date ideas! Mostly because I’m a huge fan and supporter of the arts. And not everyone in my family is as enthusiastic as I am. I can only drag my husband to so many ballet performances!
It can be a play, a ballet, a musical, whatever tickles your fancy. Most companies only do a product once every few years, so if you see something you like you should go for it! You never know when you’ll get the opportunity to see it again.
Or Have a Solo Movie Night Out
The same thing goes for the movie theater, of course! If there’s a movie you’ve been dying to see but hear crickets when you ask around, go on your own! Again, if going to a movie theater alone freaks you out, try to go during an afternoon showing when there’s less people.
It’s very relaxing to be able to kick back in a movie theater seat with hardly anybody around you. Let yourself go and be absorbed by that movie you’ve been dying to see. It’s much better than worrying about having a date next to you.
Take a Dance Class
As a ballet dancer, I can’t recommend this one enough! And it doesn’t have to be ballet if that’s not your thing. Dance in and of itself can be very therapeutic if you let it be that way. I love ballet because it’s an extra outlet of expression. It’s also one of the best self-date ideas because you really get to know yourself and your body.
If you’re looking for a new way to express yourself, I highly recommend you give dance a try. Who knows, you might even find yourself in the process! I can definitely attest to this. I wouldn’t be half as confident in my own skin if it wasn’t for dance. I’ve got a handy post on some easy ballet stretches to get you started.
Go Berry Picking
Get some fresh produce in a therapeutic, sunny setting! I don’t know how to explain it, but there’s something so calming about walking slowly through a beautiful field of fruit and methodically picking the best ones you can find.
Don’t forget to wear a cute sun hat and a dress and take a few selfies while you’re out there! There’s nothing wrong with admiring yourself while on a solo date. You would do the same for another person, wouldn’t you?
Try a Cooking Class
You don’t have to simply impress your next date you bring home! Prep and teach yourself how to make a great meal that will give you more confidence in the kitchen. It can be a class on a complex topic, like how to make your own pasta.
Or you can keep it super simple and take a basic cooking class! I’ll admit that I should have done this years ago, because I didn’t start to get comfortable in the kitchen until a few years ago. And I’m still learning now!
Book a Massage
Okay, you’re not totally alone with this one, but it’s still something you can do just for you. I love to get a massage for myself every year for my birthday. I would do one every month if I could!
If your body is feeling tired, stress, tense, or all of the above, I promise you this is just what the doctor ordered. I can’t tell you how good it feels to finally have some of that tension released with some relaxing music playing in the background.
Go on a Hike
Hikes are incredibly therapeutic for someone who simply wants to be alone with their thoughts for a little bit in a relaxing setting. Get back to nature and work through those feelings you’ve been avoiding! It’s one of the best self-date ideas to simply be alone with yourself.
Nature is one of the most underused antidepressants, so if you need to be alone and get a good pick-me-up, go take a hike! You’ll probably pass several people who are on the same endeavor. Don’t worry though, everyone knows to stick to themselves.
Final Thoughts on These Self-Care Date Ideas
I’m going to leave you with one last tips after all of these self-date ideas to do by yourself. Remember to treat this time as a real date! Yes, it’s just you, but you need to treat yourself as if you were a date you wanted to cherish.
That means wearing a pretty dress, doing your makeup, giving yourself complements, anything at all that you would normally do for someone else on a date. I promise it will help raise your confidence and comfort in simply being who you are.
And when you’re feeling comfy and confident in yourself, all those dates you’ve been wanting with other people will simply fall into your lap. People are attracted to confidence, so make sure you find that in yourself first before you try to find it in others.
What are some of your favorite self-date ideas? Let me know in the comments below!
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